Letting Go of Resistance

If you have always done something a particular way, you will probably continue doing it that way, even if you are not getting the results you want. Plenty of salespeople tell me that they leave messages but no one ever calls them back. When I inquire more about the situation I discover that they continually leave the same messages over and over and over.

Is it not interesting how we all know that insanity is doing the same things over and over and expecting different results, but we fail to see how we do the same things over and over and expect different results?

Recently something happened in my personal life that made me think, "WOW! The real instigator to changing a habit is a new insight."

A couple weeks ago our family got together before our youngest daughter Zoë went off to college. We were over at our son's house and Zoë and our grandson Rocco were running around the house playing chase. Then Rocco did something that made us all say, "Oh Rocco, do you need to go to the bathroom?" Being a typical 2-year old, he said, "No."

Having raised four children I know the signs of a 2-year old who needs to go to the bathroom and I know that a little accident is moments away if action is not taken. So I said, "Oh Rocco, come with Tamster because she's going to go with you to the bathroom."

My son Marcus then said, "Wait a minute Mom." Then, very tenderly, he said, "Rocco. Rocco. Listen. You can still play chase with Zoë. You can go to the bathroom and then come back and play chase."

Rocco said, "Oh!" and then he ran off to the bathroom. A couple minutes later he came out yelling, "Daddy, I went pee-pee all by myself." You should have seen the look of self-confidence in that young boy's eyes! It was so beautiful.

Years ago when I was raising little ones, the way that I prevented those little 2-year old accidents from occurring was really by taking control of the situation and taking my children to the bathroom. Although I was friendly, and although they learned that they really did need to go to the bathroom, I did not create a situation in which they felt incredibly self-confident.

Surely you noticed that I was going to use that same old method with my grandchildren…

UNTIL my son Marcus gave me a whole new insight and in that instant I saw the benefits of leaving my old methodology behind.

Consider that whenever you attend a local meeting or join in on a tele-seminar someone could say something that would show you the power in letting go of your ineffective methods.

But here is the really tricky part – oftentimes the most useful insight for you personally will be the insight you resist! It may be that you do not much care for the person who shares the insight or how they share it. It may be that you think the insight seems too simple or too difficult.

I cannot say how it will all unfold. However, I highly suggest that you pay attention to the ideas that you resist.

When my son said, "Wait a minute Mom," and then he presented a more effective method, I felt really embarrassed in that moment. After all, I had been raising children for 27 years and my son has only been raising children for two!

Once I felt embarrassed I felt an incredibly strong desire to make my son wrong – he was rude to me, he was abrupt, etc. But none of that was true and deep inside I knew that, but is it not interesting how I resisted what I needed to learn?

Pay attention this week to the things you resist in your business and your personal life. Once you notice your resistance, take a deep breath and consider what could happen if you let the resistance go.

When you let resistance go, you create the possibility to see something that can make an enormous impact in your business and/or your life.

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